So I watched Ben Stiller's
Greenberg.
It is a story a lot of us will find unsettling. A guy who used to be many years ago part of a rock band on the verge of a breakthrough, quit and moved out of town without good reason, leaving his band mates hanging.
Now many years later, at the age of 40, he is back in town to housesit for his very successful brother, who is on vacation with his family.
Some of Greenberg's former bandmates have moved on to successful careers, and some haven't, and blame him for it. Greenberg could be two or three guys I know in real life. He lies, he treats people badly -- and doesn't realize it --, but worst of all, he lies to himself. But not all of his shit has been a result of his own character's flaws... some of it has been poor judgment which can happen to the best of people.
There is also Greenberg's love interest, Florence, who is again, a person many of us could have known. Someone who has all the right ingredients, but lacks the confidence and self-esteem to do for herself what she does for others.
The sex scene between Florence and Greenberg, when it comes, is as realistically awkward as you'd expect from a movie like this.
In the end, the point isn't that Greenberg failed as a musician, because this movie isn't about music. The movie is more about people who failed at achieving their dreams -- whatever they may be --, and how they cope with it.
Two people I know, could be Greenberg (three, if I count myself, though I stopped lying to myself years ago). One is a friend about to hit his 30s, and another is a cousin in his 40s. While so many of us end up falling short of our dreams, the truly pitiful ones are those who think they are fooling others by lying to everyone, and lying to themselves.
One final thing. I know that I've pointed out that Greenberg and Florence could be characters we know from real life, but that doesn't mean the movie resorts to cliches or caricatures.
I've also said the movie is unsettling, but how unsettling it is depends on how much you find yourself identifying Greenberg. The movie itself isn't gloomy. It is smartly written, and quite funny at times.
Anyway, here is a link to the movie on rotten tomatoes. It is a pretty good flick. Put it on your netflix:
http://www.rottentomatoes.com/m/greenberg/